持戒、对治、调伏与慈悲并不相违，对治烦恼就是对自己的慈悲。当我们这样对待了自己，也就可以用同样的方式去对待他人。比如，再次面对他人的烦恼时，一方面因为慈悲，我们不再那么容易被激惹，比如不再嗔恨、抱怨，这样也就可以避免纠缠不休；另外一方面，因为有了分辨力，明白是非，也就开始有勇气去否决一些不合理的要求。慈悲并不意味着有求必应，或者永远只有温和的笑脸，这不一定是真正的慈悲。
Curing vexation is compassionate to the self
Discipline, curing, subduing is not conflict with compassion. Curing vexation is compassionate to the self. When we treat ourselves like this, we can also treat others in the same way. For example, when facing the vexation of others again, on the one hand, because of compassion, we are no longer so easy to be provoked, no hatred and complaint anymore, so that we can also avoid entanglement; on the other hand, because we have the ability to distinguish and understand right and wrong, we also begin to be courageous to refuse some unreasonable requirements. Compassion does not mean that there is always a need to be answered, or there is always a gentle smile, which is not necessarily real compassion.
